Your best days are in the rearview mirror.
Remember that one time when it was New Year’s Eve and you were in the middle of the circle listening to your favorite band with your favorite people and it was snowing and your stomach hurt from laughing so hard at the stolen thunder and you stood with your back against the wall and watched the frozen pipes burst through the ceiling and you said it was a sign from heaven?
Remember when the doctors held down your wrist with leather restraints and you just asked your dad to pray because “you see this doctor… this one? He tried to kill me!” And when Ryan came in I just stared a hole through him, in rage. And then years later, they found her laying in the street, naked – she was talking about the end of the world and the neighbors called the police and now the Social Workers are involved and we want someone to blame because the ultrasound was inconclusive. But I came from Grand Rapids to sit by your hospital bed to hold your hand and tell you that the DePoy’s stick together, and everything will be ok and no this is not “God’s Plan…” But maybe mental illness runs our bloodline because
I remember the time I stood on the roof of Holland Community Hospital and the voices encouraged me to jump but it was not the voice of my Abba, and I knew that this was a spiritual war, and I had embraced the cold porcelain toilet hurling up the truth about the rest of the story and the unwritten chapters of love lost and found and swinging in the dark at the inevitable resignation of the exodus lovelution.
But what if Brene Brown is right? What if this is all just a narrative that I’ve created to appear as the victim in a violent crime? What if the other side of the story was much more loving and less complicated and we could make sense of the pipes bursting from the record cold temperatures in the harbor theatre? And what if the doctor was actually good, and not trying to harm you? And what if being bipolar doesn’t mean you lose your soul? And what if the story I’ve been telling myself is fiction?
Because your best days are still ahead of you. And love still wins. And children still laugh. And after New Year’s Eve comes a New Beginning, and after the frozen pipes thaw and the demolition removes the ashes, reconstruction comes around Easter and the tomb is empty and Teresa believes in mercy and my value and worth are sealed until the day of redemption.